DIANE Wimsatt

Mount Airy, Md 21771-7490

The Gazette

218 Main Street

Mount Airy, Md.  21771

Dear Gazette,

I have been watching the issue of gay marriage for some time and was dismayed but not surprised to see the Massachusetts courts approve gay marriage in that state.  From what I have heard in the news it seems that neither side has done their homework.  The opponents say something akin to, “It’s just bad, that’s all.” while the proponents say, “I don’t see the difference or any reason why not.”  Unfortunately, our disposable-marriage (no-fault divorce) culture has had something to do with this. 

A major issue that is being ignored is that the homosexual community does not really care about marriage.  The actual number of “committed” homosexual relationships (those where neither partner has affairs) is extremely low ( around 4%, maybe).  If homosexuals are allowed to marry would that magically curbed the unfaithful? Homosexuals see marriage as a path to social acceptance.  

Has anyone considered the children?  One of the many problems is that folks do not see that men and women contribute uniquely to child rearing.  Gay couples must admit this at the most basic level because they must rely on heterosexual unions before they can even hope to adopt children.  What homosexual couples are saying is that mothers and fathers are not necessary and that they can do what heterosexual couples can just as well.  Really?  Can a pair of men demonstrate motherhood to a little girl?  What is being subtly communicated to our children by our culture is that we should be able to do whatever we want regardless of whether it is right or wrong or hurts other people.  With the rise in promiscuity, unwed pregnancies and sexually transmitted disease among our youth over the last 30+ years I think the kids are getting the message loud and clear. 

If we are truly concerned about stable healthy homes for our children then gay marriage is clearly not the way to go. 

The major problem with the Massachusetts courts is that gay marriage is not the will of the people.  The courts have taken it upon themselves to define what marriage is despite the efforts of our elected officials to concretize what the majority thinks on this issue.

There is much more to be considered.  The opponents to gay marriage had better get their apologetic together and start communicating it while the proponents had better open their eyes to reality.